Today we begin a new series. Well, sort of. Actually what I want to do in today’s post is introduce the next series.
For the next 10 posts we’re going to look at marriage… from a unique angle. Each post will build around a paradigm I developed and have used for many years now with husbands and wives – the marriage boat.
(We embrace the traditional position on marriage – namely, a covenant relationship between a man and a woman.)
The 10 posts will fall into three categories. We’ll look at the Dangerous (the first six), the Doomed (the next three), and the Desired (the final one).
There’s a lot to be mined from this simple analogy of the marriage boat. I hope you will get some insights useful to your own marriage as this series unfolds.
And let me say one final word about the series… and the analogy. This is the marriage boat. It is not an analogy or series about the family. There are no children in the marriage boat. In the family boat yes… that is, if you have children. But not in the marriage boat. (If you really want to screw up a child, pull him or her into the marriage boat. You will guarantee the need for years of therapy for that child.)
The marriage boat is about the relationship between the husband and the wife.
And it’s a most important subject. According to the American Psychological Association, “about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.”*
The affect of this on children? “Girls whose parents divorce are more likely to drop out of school and are more likely to become pregnant outside of marriage, while children of divorce report lower levels of happiness in their adult years and higher than average levels of divorce in their own marriages.”**
I look forward to getting into this material with you as we go forward.
** Ellis, E.M., Divorce Wars, Interventions With Families In Conflict , APA books, Georgia, (2000).