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The Problem Is Not You

You’ve probably noticed that a lot more people are dealing with increased anxiety, worry, sadness, loss of self-confidence and personal drive these days as residual effects of the lengthy pandemic.

In fact, it seems like we’re now suffering from a different form of pandemic – a virus of the mind and soul that is destroying happiness, hope, a sense of mental and emotional wellbeing, and the overall quality of people’s lives.

So now, more than ever, we could all use some help getting back to a good place.

This got us thinking …

A real common misconception is that we think just because we are alive we automatically know how to live well. But that isn’t true. Because, as you know, even in the best of times we still struggle.

Sometimes it’s family dynamics and difficult relationships. Sometimes it’s challenges at work or confusion about a career choice. Sometimes it’s just generalized fear or anxiety or ongoing negative self-talk.

That’s because the ability to live well is not something we’re born with.

A common misconception is that we think just because we are alive we automatically know how to live well.

Truth is, the ability to live well is a learned craft.

Said differently, the craft of living is very much like any other craft or skill set you want to master. Before you can do it well – you first have to learn how.

You have to acquire the necessary tools and then learn the requisite skills that will equip you to use them.

So, what this means is that if you’re unhappy, discouraged, or struggling with something that keeps getting the best of you, it’s not because you’re a failure. Or you’re a bad person. Or any other negative message you tell yourself.

Think about it …

How much do you enjoy doing something you’re good at? You feel confident going in because you know what to do and how to do it. And afterward you get to enjoy all the benefits of a job well done.

But what happens when life calls on you to do something you’re not equipped for? Those things you know you don’t do well?

Doesn’t it make sense that these are most likely the areas you struggle in? And doesn’t it also make sense that netting less-than-desirable outcomes would negatively affect your mood and hinder progress in other areas?

Maybe you have trouble communicating your feelings or you have trust issues or intimacy issues or commitment issues. If this is the case, any marital relationship can’t help but be unfulfilling at best and rocky or even undoable at worst.

Or maybe you’re confident you can help your child when their best friend hurts their feelings and their heart is broken. But you don’t have a clue how to deal with your defiant teenager.  

Or maybe your inner dialogue is robbing you of a healthy relationship with your self because you don’t know how to manage your mind or nurture your spirit or properly relate to your body.

Or maybe you’re just confused and don’t feel like you even know who you are anymore, or what you want, or what you want to do with your life.

These are just a few of the many examples that can cause us ongoing pain – pain we suffer unnecessarily simply because we lack the tools to fix what’s wrong and the knowledge to know how and when to use them.

The craft of living is very much like any other craft or skill set you want to master. Before you can do it well – you first have to learn how.

Let me give you a real-life example.

I have a sewing machine (two, in fact). And I know how to sew. As a result, I like fixing those pants or shirts or jackets or whatever that have lost a button or suffered a rip or need hemming.

Anytime something like this happens in the family, they bring the injured item to me because I have the necessary tools (a sewing machine, needles, thread, buttons, etc.) and the requisite knowledge and skill set to achieve a successful outcome I can be proud of and my family is happy with.

BUT …

If I were to sit my husband down in front of my sewing machine and ask him to hem a pair of pants, he’d be lost. He doesn’t have the first clue about how to thread the machine even, much less what to do from there.

At the same time, this is no statement about him as a person. In fact, he’s incredibly smart – much smarter than I am. And he’s also a great guy.

So you see, it’s not him. It’s not personal. He just doesn’t know how to sew.

Now, I urge you to stop everything else going on in your head right now and hear what I’m about to say.

In the same way, the problem or problems you’re experiencing right now are not a personal statement about you. Said another way, you are not the problem.

Step back and look at your challenge as a separate entity from you. Then take the emotion out of it and see it for what it really is …

 … a challenge that you have not yet gained the proper tools and learned the essential skills to fix. That’s all, pure and simple.

The problem or problems you’re experiencing right now are not a personal statement about you – but about your lack of key tools and the knowledge of how to use them.

Do you know what else this means?

It means that your problem is almost always solvable when you learn what you don’t now know that is necessary to fix it and how to do it.

In other words, when you gain the proper tools and learn how to use them effectively, the hopelessness, confusion, and overwhelm in your life turns to faith, clarity, and power.

And maybe the best news of all is that the solution is almost always simple.

It’s nothing like going to college for four years just to get a head full of  knowledge about a subject that, even when you graduate, you may still have no practical use for at all!

Rather, what I’m talking about is a way for you to begin equipping yourself with a few simple life tools that allow you to accomplish such things as quiet your mind or heal your inner wound or mend that broken relationship.

What we find is that most of the time, just gaining one simple tool and learning how and when to use it can make all the difference in your overall experience and mastery of life.

Your problem is almost always solvable when you learn what you don’t now know that is necessary to fix it and how to do it.

But where and how can you do that? 

With the overwhelming number of hurting people in our world these days, now more than ever we believe it’s time to create a world where we can help these same hurting people find the tools and learn the skills that will enable them to get back to a good place in life. A healing place. A psychospiritually healthy and whole place.

To that end, we see Growth Resources Online evolving into a synergistic and vibrant online community of people who come together to learn and gain mastery in the tools and skills they need to follow through on all the great precepts for living that God has given us in Scripture.

It is our mission at GRO to help you discover the simplest and most effective ways to implement these biblical precepts into your day-in-day-out life from our own personal and professional inventory of psychological and spiritual tools.

In fact, Scripture even explains the best way to do what we will be doing with our member community:

For it is precept upon precept, precept upon precept,
    line upon line, line upon line,
    here a little, there a little.”
(Isa. 28:10)

Using a lot of different modalities, we will be continually sharing surprisingly simple, yet indispensable, tools and skills with our members so they can systematically (“here a little, there a little”) build their own toolbox with what they need to be skilled at this essential craft of living well.

Our mission at GRO to help you discover the simplest and most effective ways to implement biblical precepts into your day-in-day-out life from our own personal and professional inventory of psychological and spiritual tools.

And you are invited to join us.

Right now we’re inviting a very special group of people to become founding members of this GRO Community.

We call this initial group Chapter 1 Members, because they will each play their own part in helping write the first chapter of Growth Resources Online.

The doors to membership will be opening soon, but they will only remain open for a short time. And when they close, that special group of people will be set. Chapter 1 Membership will be complete.

If you miss out, you will not only miss the tools and skills that are shared with this special group, but all the perks that are reserved for them as well.

As a Chapter 1 Member:

  • You are guaranteed to get the absolute best price possible. And your monthly subscription will never go up, no matter how that changes for future members.
  • You get two valuable gifts immediately upon joining (we tell you what those are when the doors open).
  • You will be grandfathered in to any and all member advantages we add in the future for the membership level you choose.
  • You get VIP concierge-level treatment. The best of everything we do and have to share with our community will be yours from Day 1. That includes surprise gifts, lagniappes, anything and everything that may help facilitate you on your journey to psychospiritual wholeness will be yours as soon as it becomes available.

On a more personal note, each and every individual Chapter 1 Member will hold a special place in our heart from now on. And not just because we now share in and facilitate your journey, but also because you will become part of our lives and our story too, as well as the lives of the other Chapter 1 Members.

So, if you’re interested in this opportunity, right now is the time to let us know!

And since this may be the only time you see this invitation, even if you’re not sure, I urge you to still sign up for more info by clicking the button below as this does not obligate you in any way.

And then once you do, please take some time to visit our site and download all the free stuff we have waiting there for you!

Can’t wait to meet you!

Sign up now and we’ll be getting back to you real soon!!

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